đź”— Share this article Failing to find a fantastic time at college? You're not alone. A pair of university attendees describe their stories of student life. A student named Robert spent most of his first week at university looking at social media, seeing content about other students' fun nights out. "I was just in bed," Robert recalls, describing the week as the most solitary phase of his life. Robert's flatmates seldom socialized, and his program didn't seem very sociable. Despite putting himself out there by going to taster sessions for various societies, he couldn't find his people. "I began losing my confidence," he says. "I felt like people didn't want to be friends with me, or they didn't like me." Online Network Judgments Originally, Robert didn't plan of studying at university and was offered positions for post-secondary education. However he observed his peers having great fun as university attendees on social media. "When you must rise for work on Thursday at 9:00 and you see someone's been out on Wednesday night, you begin believing others have it better," Robert explains. University Expectations TV shows and digital networks can romanticize the concept of university living. Lots of people come to university with great anticipations for what they imagine could be the greatest period of their lives. Certain attendees arrive at college with "idealistic views," explains a mental health professional. Survey Findings In a poll of first-year attendees early on, the main anxiety was finding their place and being accepted Additional research through polling organizations, nearly one-fifth of attendees said they lacked friendships at university Over one-third reported they worried daily or weekly about building relationships Individual Stories Another student's social media content was populated with clips of students enjoying themselves while living together in university housing. Yet when she relocated from her previous location to campus to pursue media studies, she found freshers' week "overwhelming" because of the drinking culture it involved. She avoids drinking and had not experienced nightlife before. "I actually passed a lot of freshers' week within my living space," she says. "I merely sensed slightly disconnected." Psychological Aspects Through current studies of numerous undergraduate students, nearly one-third reported they contemplated leaving university. The most common reason was psychological wellbeing, accompanied by monetary worries. "Anxiety about these various aspects is massively common, and normal," notes a counselling expert. Finding Solutions With time, all three individuals eventually adapted and formed relationships. Alisha made friends via her studies and via social media, while the individual experienced improvement once she was able to relocate with companions. Useful Suggestions For Robert, now 24 and in his concluding studies, it was engaging in performance groups and getting a part-time job that assisted in relationship building. The suggested approach to new attendees finding social interaction difficult is to simply leave your accommodation and go to club and society taster events. "Following several weeks of consistently showing up, people recognise your face," he explains, "you become familiar with them, and you start making friends."